Useful Sites

http://www.lifehack.org/330328/8-insightful-questions-only-the-smartest-candidates-ask-job-interview

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/this-how-you-become-unattractive-and-youre-not-aware.html

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-great-life-lessons-remember.html

http://www.lifehack.org/314124/10-quotes-that-will-make-you-believe-yourself-again

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/30-quotes-failure-that-will-lead-you-success.html

http://www.lifehack.org/315584/13-websites-make-extra-cash-your-spare-time

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10 Questions to Find Your Passion

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Only 1 in 3 Americans are happy, according to this article. If you’re in the minority, and you’re feeling happy and fulfilled in your life, that’s great! If you’re not, here are some questions to help you find your passion. Figuring out what lights you up and makes you feel completely alive can help you kickstart the new year and make it the best year ever.

To get the most out of these questions, turn of all distractions and let your imagination run wild. Give yourself the permission to dream big. If you’ve been stuck in the daily grind for years, you may find your fears kick in as soon as you start dreaming big. You’ll instantly start thinking of all the reasons your dreams are irrational or impossible. Ignore those thoughts and focus on the questions.

When you discover your passion, and you combine it with your strengths, you come alive and shine. Finding your passion can take time and effort, but the investment is worth it.

Here are 10 questions to help you find your passion.

1. How do you want to be remembered?

What do you hope people say about you at your funeral?

2. If you had the time and finances, what would you do with your life?

Picture your life with unlimited resources. How would you spend your days?

3. If you were guaranteed not to fail, what would you do?

Then think about being wildly successful at your dream and how it would change your life and the lives of the people around you.

4. What mark do you want to make on the world?

We all have the ability to make a dent on the world. What dent do you want to make?

5. If you could snap your fingers and instantly be famous for something, what would you choose?

Or, what would you love to be an expert at?

6. What makes you feel totally alive?

If you can think of several things, think about the common theme among them. Is there a theme of freedom? Traveling? A certain subject?

7. What do you love doing so much that you lose track of time when you do it?

Is there something you do that you get completely absorbed in?

8. What are you completely amazing at?

Sometimes it’s hard for us to see our strengths. Do you get complimented frequently on being really great at something? Think about what comes easily for you that others struggle with.

9. Who inspires you?

Consider not only who they are but why they inspire you.

10. What would you do if you could conquer your fears?

If you haven’t found your passion yet, keep searching. This free workbook has more questions to help you find your passion. Self-discovery is important, so keep learning about yourself and what you love. When you choose to put in the time and effort to discover your passion, and then you make room in your life to regularly spend time doing what you love, your life greatly improves.

Also, surround yourself with people who inspire you. As Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” If you want to improve your life, hang out with people who are positive and encouraging, and who are doing amazing things. Connect with people who are already doing what you hope to do. If it doesn’t work out to connect in person, connect online. In today’s world, we can connect easily with people across the globe instantaneously. The people you choose to spend time with can greatly influence your ability to find and do what you love.

I’m convinced that the world would be a better place if we come alive and spend our time doing what truly matters to us. When we find our passion and focus our lives on what we love, our lives become more fulfilling and we can give the best of ourselves to the world.

7 Reasons Why You [I] Fail All the Time

This is a response and evaluation on myself based on the article taken from here–

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/7-reasons-why-you-fail-all-the-time.html, written by 
The bold words are my response, and the standard type were the original article. The quoted part is section I think is important or touching, or advice I find useful.

Frustrated with failure? Ever feel like you fail all the time? Here are 7 reasons why you fail all the time. Learn to recognize them so you can avoid them in the future.

OH,YES, I think I haven’t reach the FRUSTRATED part, but  I’m pretty confused it nears FRUSTRATED

1. You’re Lazy

Honestly, you’re not trying.

You like the idea of success, but you’re lacking effort.

You like to act like you’re trying, but you’re really spending more time thinking about how you’re going to explain your work to other people than actually doing any work.

Stop being lazy.

How to fix this: stop being lazy and start developing a work ethic. Do something — anything.

Honestly, you’re right, it has been my habit. My friend practice sketching although they have been quite good about it, while me, just doing the task, with no extra effort.
I’ll keep that in mind, do something-anything.Except watch TV and play games. I’m serious. I’ll try to fill the next days thinking and pondering and doing something about my future. On a scale of 1 to 10, my effort is 4 or 5

2. You Make Too Many Excuses

See the above excuse. In addition to being lazy, you probably make excuses all the time about how something wasn’t your fault and why you’re not actually lazy, but it’s really because the stars didn’t align and someone else was somehow responsible.

No.

Stop being lazy. Stop making excuses. Get to work.

How to fix this: take responsibility for everything — including stuff that isn’t your fault.

OKAY.OKAY.I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MYSELF. I GET IT.

3. You Dream Too Much

Dreaming is great — nothing has ever happened without someone first imagining that it could exist.

That said, there’s a point where dreaming is overdone. Sometimes you just need to get down and take some action. Get out of your head and start piecing together the puzzle. Stop overanalyzing everything and dreaming about what could be and get started on actually bringing it into existence.

How to fix this: Find one actionable way to bring your dream one step closer to reality.

The problem is, I dream about different things and different success at lots of fields I think greed has seeped into my mind. And I also dream of fictional characters. The worst  case was I dreamed about them at study time. Now It has been down to before sleeping, as a way to keep my mind busy while waiting to fall asleep.

Actionable way ? work very hard in study, sport, beauty, art, making friends, music,and do ninja training?On a scale of 1 to 10, my daydreaming  level is 7 or 8. Quite dangerous.

4. You’re Scared of Failure

This is actually a hilarious sort of reason in an ironic sense. You fail because you’re so scared of failure that you either

  1. Never start, or
  2. Are so scared of failing that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Failure isn’t a bad thing — in fact, it can be one of your greatest teachers. But you’ll never find out if you’re too scared to even try. Stop acting out of fear and start taking action.

How to fix this: Find the thing that scares you most — then jump in and do it. 

Never start: trying new things, although my condition now has been a lot better. I used to hesitate ordering different dishes, even at a familiar restaurant. I think through small things, I think the pouting waiter hate me ( although it is more likely that she have had a bad day ). Now I make decision over small things faster. Buy this, throw that out. I choose different menu, I act more bravely. But, there are things I feared too.

Never start. In this case, what? Started tuition? I haven’t have made my decision yet. I afraid if this whole moving to another major failed, I may have no way to go back, trapped between bad grades and jobless, being poor and a burden to my family. Subsconciously, if  I stay, maybe I feared I’m being not god enough, I failed again, or the whole process didn’t worth the result, or, it didn’t take out my full potential. And be a burden to my family.

If I moved to another major, I slightly feared about friends, very very slightly about repuation, and I afraid about failing again in the new major and be a burden to my family.

Conclusion : Biggest fear : Being a no-good, jobless, dimeless, and a burden to my family.
And no, please, I don’t want to jump in there.

5. You’re Unfocused with Your Actions

You’re all over the place.

Sure you can blame this on ADD (see reason #2), but the real reason is that you don’t have a plan of action so you lash out at any shiny object that sounds like it will fix your problem.

But, that’s not going to help.

What will help is a solid plan with intentional action that gets you closer and closer to your goals. Laser-focus your attention on the 20% of things that will get you results.

How to fix this: Create a schedule, a routine and a plan to accomplish your goals — then stick to it.

Oh my god, yes, things i have laid my attention to : Scince books, poetry, novel, writing, cross stitch, craft, knitting, language, music, art. And it all pops at a different time, without warning, and well, gradually ends. Plans often failed. And now I’m confused again. 

6. You Don’t Know How To Quit

The one thing worse than a failed project is trying to convince yourself that there’s still hope.

If the project didn’t achieve its goals, know when to cut bait, learn your lesson and get started on the next one. There’s no need to throw good money after bad on a project that wasn’t worth it in the first place.

How to fix this: Have clear goals with each project and endeavor. Abandon the ones that don’t achieve their stated purpose.

It didn’t achive it goals, but WHEN i have to cut bait, LEARN my lesson and get started? WHAT is the perimeter? Oh dear….

HAVE A CLEAR GOAL : SUCCESS–not clear enough.

7. You Forget The Basics

You get so caught up in the flashy aspects of the dream lifestyle that you forget the basics. You get lazy with fundamentals and spend too much time in lala-land.

Strip away the flash. Stop trying to be so hollywood and go back to the start. Get the basics right.

How to fix this: Take away the flash and get back to the basics. Get those right first.

 

That article was like the 20 facts of yourself that was quite popular a while ago. It defi nes my failure as if I’m the one writing it. So, this point was basically to make me forget the bling and the money it can offer, right? But if financially success is my goal, what to do? 

14 January 2016