Frustrated with failure? Ever feel like you fail all the time? Here are 7 reasons why you fail all the time. Learn to recognize them so you can avoid them in the future.
OH,YES, I think I haven’t reach the FRUSTRATED part, but I’m pretty confused it nears FRUSTRATED
1. You’re Lazy
Honestly, you’re not trying.
You like the idea of success, but you’re lacking effort.
You like to act like you’re trying, but you’re really spending more time thinking about how you’re going to explain your work to other people than actually doing any work.
Stop being lazy.
How to fix this: stop being lazy and start developing a work ethic. Do something — anything.
Honestly, you’re right, it has been my habit. My friend practice sketching although they have been quite good about it, while me, just doing the task, with no extra effort.
I’ll keep that in mind, do something-anything.Except watch TV and play games. I’m serious. I’ll try to fill the next days thinking and pondering and doing something about my future. On a scale of 1 to 10, my effort is 4 or 5
2. You Make Too Many Excuses
See the above excuse. In addition to being lazy, you probably make excuses all the time about how something wasn’t your fault and why you’re not actually lazy, but it’s really because the stars didn’t align and someone else was somehow responsible.
Stop being lazy. Stop making excuses. Get to work.
How to fix this: take responsibility for everything — including stuff that isn’t your fault.
OKAY.OKAY.I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MYSELF. I GET IT.
3. You Dream Too Much
Dreaming is great — nothing has ever happened without someone first imagining that it could exist.
That said, there’s a point where dreaming is overdone. Sometimes you just need to get down and take some action. Get out of your head and start piecing together the puzzle. Stop overanalyzing everything and dreaming about what could be and get started on actually bringing it into existence.
How to fix this: Find one actionable way to bring your dream one step closer to reality.
The problem is, I dream about different things and different success at lots of fields I think greed has seeped into my mind. And I also dream of fictional characters. The worst case was I dreamed about them at study time. Now It has been down to before sleeping, as a way to keep my mind busy while waiting to fall asleep.
Actionable way ? work very hard in study, sport, beauty, art, making friends, music,and do ninja training?On a scale of 1 to 10, my daydreaming level is 7 or 8. Quite dangerous.
4. You’re Scared of Failure
This is actually a hilarious sort of reason in an ironic sense. You fail because you’re so scared of failure that you either
- Never start, or
- Are so scared of failing that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Failure isn’t a bad thing — in fact, it can be one of your greatest teachers. But you’ll never find out if you’re too scared to even try. Stop acting out of fear and start taking action.
How to fix this: Find the thing that scares you most — then jump in and do it.
Never start: trying new things, although my condition now has been a lot better. I used to hesitate ordering different dishes, even at a familiar restaurant. I think through small things, I think the pouting waiter hate me ( although it is more likely that she have had a bad day ). Now I make decision over small things faster. Buy this, throw that out. I choose different menu, I act more bravely. But, there are things I feared too.
Never start. In this case, what? Started tuition? I haven’t have made my decision yet. I afraid if this whole moving to another major failed, I may have no way to go back, trapped between bad grades and jobless, being poor and a burden to my family. Subsconciously, if I stay, maybe I feared I’m being not god enough, I failed again, or the whole process didn’t worth the result, or, it didn’t take out my full potential. And be a burden to my family.
If I moved to another major, I slightly feared about friends, very very slightly about repuation, and I afraid about failing again in the new major and be a burden to my family.
Conclusion : Biggest fear : Being a no-good, jobless, dimeless, and a burden to my family.
And no, please, I don’t want to jump in there.
5. You’re Unfocused with Your Actions
You’re all over the place.
Sure you can blame this on ADD (see reason #2), but the real reason is that you don’t have a plan of action so you lash out at any shiny object that sounds like it will fix your problem.
But, that’s not going to help.
What will help is a solid plan with intentional action that gets you closer and closer to your goals. Laser-focus your attention on the 20% of things that will get you results.
How to fix this: Create a schedule, a routine and a plan to accomplish your goals — then stick to it.
Oh my god, yes, things i have laid my attention to : Scince books, poetry, novel, writing, cross stitch, craft, knitting, language, music, art. And it all pops at a different time, without warning, and well, gradually ends. Plans often failed. And now I’m confused again.
6. You Don’t Know How To Quit
The one thing worse than a failed project is trying to convince yourself that there’s still hope.
If the project didn’t achieve its goals, know when to cut bait, learn your lesson and get started on the next one. There’s no need to throw good money after bad on a project that wasn’t worth it in the first place.
How to fix this: Have clear goals with each project and endeavor. Abandon the ones that don’t achieve their stated purpose.
It didn’t achive it goals, but WHEN i have to cut bait, LEARN my lesson and get started? WHAT is the perimeter? Oh dear….
HAVE A CLEAR GOAL : SUCCESS–not clear enough.
7. You Forget The Basics
You get so caught up in the flashy aspects of the dream lifestyle that you forget the basics. You get lazy with fundamentals and spend too much time in lala-land.
Strip away the flash. Stop trying to be so hollywood and go back to the start. Get the basics right.
How to fix this: Take away the flash and get back to the basics. Get those right first.
That article was like the 20 facts of yourself that was quite popular a while ago. It defi nes my failure as if I’m the one writing it. So, this point was basically to make me forget the bling and the money it can offer, right? But if financially success is my goal, what to do?
14 January 2016